There was never any question as to whether Sol and I would get married in a church. We both grew up going to church every Sunday, and despite the fact that neither of us attend mass as often as we used to (or should), the religious aspect of marriage is still very important to both of us. Plus, when you get married in January, a quaint outdoor ceremony is pretty much out of the question.
I’m Catholic, but Sol’s religious tradition is a little fuzzy. His father grew up in the Mennonite religion and his family identifies as Christian, but he has been interested in converting to Catholicism since I’ve known him and has enthusiastically participated in every Catholic mass we’ve attended together. Due to his rigorous studying schedule, however, he has so far unable to commit to the intensive conversion process, which can take eight months or more.
Since Sol is planning on eventually converting to Catholicism, we easily agreed to be married in a Catholic church. My childhood parish is beautiful, but it’s in the suburbs, and to borrow a phrase from Sol, it’s gotten pretty bougie in the past few years. (Don’t know what that means? Find the definition here.) As a result, we haven’t attended mass there in awhile.
When we do go to mass, we attend St. Vincent de Paul on the DePaul University Lincoln Park campus. The church is an unlikely combination of incredibly ornate décor and a young, upbeat, neighborhood vibe that always makes us feel welcome and part of a community. I’ve been a registered parishioner practically since I started at DePaul, so reserving our date was no problem at all.
Because Sol’s not Catholic yet, we won’t be able to have the full Catholic mass that we both want, but celebrating the rite of marriage in a gorgeous church that we’ve both come to know as our own is going to play a huge part in making our wedding day special and personal. Check out the next post for pictures!