A favor debate

I’ve always been slightly confused about the concept of wedding favors—why do brides and grooms feel like they need to spend extra time and money to place a virtually useless token at guests’ plates after they’ve spent sixty, seventy, one hundred dollars feeding them food and booze for five hours?  As a wedding guest, I get that you’re happy I RSVPed yes—I don’t need a tiny candle with your wedding date and monogram on it.  No, really—I have enough measuring spoons that say “a pinch of love” and “a dash of kindness” them!

Initially, we were going to forgo wedding favors, but lately I’ve been loving the trend of candy buffets and edible favors.  Guests can eat them at the wedding or take them home if they want to, and if they don’t, someone will always be glad to have another sweet treat, whereas they might not be so willing to take home 5 decks of cards decorated in our wedding colors.

In my family, it’s traditional for the men on my dad’s side to give each other incredibly large amounts of handmade caramels for Christmas.  I don’t know why, I can’t explain it—my family loves caramels.  So when we were thinking about edible favors for the wedding, I couldn’t help but think that caramels would be the perfect complement to our decadent fare.

I realize that the most economical choice is to order caramels in bulk online, but with so many caramel connoisseurs attending our wedding, I just couldn’t risk getting a bad batch.  After a little research, I came across Amy’s Candy Bar in the Ravenswood neighborhood of Chicago, a boutique confection shop with tons of adorable handmade goodies.  This particular shop is known for the handmade caramels in four different flavors: signature sea salt, dark chocolate, raspberry, and passion fruit-mango.  I corresponded with Amy about ordering in bulk, and she immediately responded that our order would be no problem (I do love a quick response from vendors).

Hello, lovers.

Sol and I recently visited Amy’s Candy Bar to make sure that we made the right choice, and let me tell you—we did.  All of the sweets, even the passion fruit-mango caramel, of which I was initially suspicious, were incredibly delicious!  We even met Amy, who is just as wonderful in person as she was over email.  We plan on offering all four caramels to each guest in a small silver gift box, topped with a handmade accordion flower made out of vintage book pages and a custom label.

Even though we didn’t originally plan to have wedding favors, I’m glad we can support a local business and shower our guests with sweets at the same time!


2 thoughts on “A favor debate

  1. This is a really good idea. I love favors that have a use like matches, plantable flower seeds and candy! There the gifts that keep on giving. Usually the takeaway items that are meant to be mementos like picture frames and shot glasses just end up in the donation bins. I like that you are thinking outside the “wedding box” and are considering breaking away from these silly traditions all together. Good luck with everything, I’m sure it will all turn out wonderfully.

  2. I agree! I love this idea! And, incorporating the caramels really brings in a good part of you and your family into the wedding favor. I think, while it is cliche (I don’t know how to make the accent mark on the “e” on this computer) to give the wedding favors, it is still a nice gesture because your guests did take time out of their schedule to attend and some of your guests probably came from a far distance, too. Of course, I agree, an open bar is definitely wayyy better than a wedding favor, but a lot of people don’t have that at their wedding, either. I think this is a nice way to show your guests your thankful they came, but to avoid the traditional boring or impersonal gifts often given.

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